If an autobiography tells the story of your whole life, a memoir zooms in on a specific piece of it. A memoir is a focused narrative built around a central theme or question, often rooted in transformation, struggle, identity, or insight. It’s not about everything that’s ever happened to you—it’s about what happened and why it matters.
Instead of telling an entire life story, a memoir zooms in on a particular “slice”—a specific period, theme, or experience that defined or transformed the author. Memoirs tend to be more literary and reflective, often prioritizing emotional truth and personal insight over comprehensive detail.
In my last blog post, we talked about how the basic steps of the novel writing process can be used to write a full autobiography. The same holds true for memoir—but with one crucial shift. With memoir, the first step isn’t structure. It’s theme. Let’s walk through how to find your theme and shape your memoir around it—one notecard at a time.
We often hear “memoir” and “autobiography” used interchangeably, but they serve very different purposes. A memoir is a slice of life—a deep dive into a particular time, theme, or transformation. An autobiography, by contrast, is your full life story—from childhood through the present. It’s the comprehensive telling of who you are and how you became that person, meant to offer not just facts but also meaning.
An autobiography attempts to tell the full story of a person’s life, typically in chronological order. It starts at or near the beginning—childhood, family background—and proceeds through adulthood, covering major events, accomplishments, and lessons learned. Think of it as a wide-angle lens: an overview of a life from beginning to (almost) end.
In this post, we’ll look at how to write a true autobiography. And if you’ve been following my series on going back to basics and applying the steps of the novel writing process to your own work, you’ll be pleased to know the same steps apply here. Whether you’re writing fiction or nonfiction, the process of planning, structuring, drafting, and revising holds up. The main differences lie in where your material comes from—memory and research rather than imagination—and how you go about shaping your story.
If you’ve ever wondered what separates a memoir from an autobiography, you’re not alone—it all comes down to scope and storytelling style. When browsing the nonfiction shelves or choosing your next book club pick, you’ve likely seen the terms memoir and autobiography used almost interchangeably. While they both draw from real lives, these two forms of life writing are distinct in both structure and purpose. Understanding the difference isn’t just helpful for readers—it’s essential for writers, too.
While it’s common to write an autobiography in a formal or even academic tone, a memoir leaves more room for the imagination.
Autobiography: The Whole Life
An autobiography attempts to tell the full story of a person’s life, typically in chronological order. It starts at or near the beginning—childhood, family background—and proceeds through adulthood, covering major events, accomplishments, and lessons learned. Think of it as a wide-angle lens: an overview of a life from beginning to (almost) end.
Once you’ve reached the end of the first draft of your novel manuscript, it’s time to celebrate! This is a HUGE accomplishment, one that takes some writers decades to reach. You should celebrate! At this point, you should ignore how many steps of the writing process are yet to be worked through and take a break. For now, the bulk of the writing is done, and your brain needs some rest before making the shift into edit mode.
Silly image generated using AI. (The images just kept getting sillier the harder I tried.)
I know what you’re thinking: Wait, edit mode? But you said I was done!
Writing and editing involve different cognitive processes that use different parts of the brain. When you write, you typically use your creative and imaginative processes, which are associated with the right side of the brain. This involves generating new ideas, making connections between concepts, and visualizing scenes and characters.
Writing a novel can be like putting a puzzle together without knowing what the final product is supposed to look like. Image generated using artificial intelligence.
On the other hand, editing involves a more analytical and critical thinking process, which is associated with the left side of the brain. This involves evaluating the structure, pacing, and clarity of your writing, checking for errors in grammar and punctuation, and refining your prose to make it more effective and engaging. Editing your work during the drafting stage of the novel writing process can be counterproductive for a few reasons:
Writing fast when creating the first draft of a novel can be beneficial for several reasons. First, writing quickly allows you to capture ideas as they flow, preventing them from slipping away. During the creative process, inspiration can strike unexpectedly, and writing fast enables you to record those ideas in the moment, preserving their freshness and vitality.
If you stop constantly during a race to check your hair and makeup, you’ll never finish the race! Don’t worry about your novel’s appearance while writing the first draft: just run toward the finish line as fast as you can! Image generated using artificial intelligence.
Writing quickly will also help you overcome writer’s block or the fear of a blank page. When you write rapidly, you minimize self-censorship and judgment, allowing your ideas to flow freely. This can help you bypass mental barriers and unleash your creativity.
Hopefully, your novel will have lots of “best parts,” but one of the most important parts of your novel will be the first chapter (also referred to as the “introduction” when discussing the basic steps of the writing process.) One of the most efficient and effective ways to write a five-paragraph essay is to write your three body paragraphs first and then write the introduction and conclusion paragraphs last. The same is often true when writing a novel.
It’s okay if your novel chapters don’t fit perfectly together in the first draft! Image generated using artificial intelligence.
The first chapter of a novel plays a crucial role in capturing the reader’s attention, introducing key elements of the story, and setting the stage for the narrative to come. It is the author’s opportunity to make a strong first impression and entice readers to delve further into the book. However, the author—you—often doesn’t know what the key elements of the story will be until after the majority of the first draft has been written. How can you possibly introduce those elements in your first chapter when you don’t know yet what they are?
During the last few weeks, we’ve spent a lot of time on the planning stage of the novel writing process, and for good reason. Taking the time to develop a well-planned story will make writing the first draft of your novel seem like a stroll through the garden. When it comes to the drafting stage of the novel writing process, the most important piece of advice I can give you is to just start writing and don’t stop until it’s done.
The time has come to embark on the next leg of your novel writing journey! Image generated using artificial intelligence.
However, you’d probably like a bit more advice than that, so here are some helpful hints and tips to get you through this stage of the novel writing process:
Pro Tip: Grab a notebook or your laptop and take notes while you read today’s post– just jot down ideas and plans as you review each task listed. Tomorrow, I’ll be coming at you with your first writing assignment!
The first step in the novel writing process is the planning stage. The planning stage of the writing process is crucial as it sets the foundation for the entire writing project. During this stage, a writer typically engages in several activities, all designed to prepare for the drafting stage. This step is essential because once you sit down to write the first draft, you’ll be prepared to “just do it” without getting sidetracked or bogged down in details that may never make it into your final draft. The planning stage of the novel writing process includes the following elements:
Brainstorming is one of the first steps of the novel writing process. Image created with Canva AI Image Generator.
Generate ideas: The writer starts by brainstorming and generating ideas about the novel they want to write. They may use techniques such as mind mapping, freewriting, or listing to generate ideas. There are a variety of free online story idea generators that can also be helpful. These include plot generators and name generators by genre, among others. If you don’t already have an idea for your novel, play with these resources until you have something fun that you will enjoy writing. Remember, this is a fun experiment, so feel free to be as silly as you like if it helps you stay engaged with the project.
So, you think you have a novel in you, huh? The idea of having a novel inside oneself is a common sentiment among aspiring writers and creative individuals. Storytelling is an essential element of the human experience, and many people have a desire to tell their stories and share their ideas through writing. Writing a novel can be seen as a creative and fulfilling endeavor that allows individuals to express themselves and leave a lasting impact. Plus, it can be fun!
If you’re like many emerging authors though, you may have a novel manuscript that you have been writing for years with no end in sight. Or perhaps you’ve always thought you “had a novel in you” but haven’t gotten around to starting it. Once upon a time, this was me. I knew I had a novel in me, but for years I could never seem to get it out of my head and onto the page.
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