Essays

Why the government shouldn’t control marriage (and why marriage should be a contract)

For something people describe as sacred, romantic, and eternal, marriage in the United States is surprisingly bureaucratic. Before two people can be “married,” they need a government-issued license. A clerk records the paperwork. A legal framework determines how assets will be divided if the relationship ends. And in many cases, the couple signs the same basic legal agreement that millions of other couples sign, whether it suits their lives or not. In other words, marriage—at least in the eyes of the state—is already a contract. We just pretend it isn’t.

Two ways to say “I do”: one sacred, one legal—both important, both separate.

The confusion comes from the fact that in modern culture, two completely different institutions are treated as though they are the same thing: religious marriage and legal marriage. They are not.

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Midnight, at the War by Devi S. Laskar: A piercing look at journalism, grief, and the stories we choose not to tell

The most unsettling part of Midnight, at the War by Devi S. Laskar isn’t the violence—it’s everything that gets ignored in its wake. Releasing April 14, 2026, this literary novel follows foreign correspondent Rita Das as she chases the biggest story of her career in a war-torn Middle East, all while quietly unraveling under the weight of grief, guilt, and a life she refuses to apologize for.

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Rita is not an easy protagonist to pin down, and that’s precisely what makes her compelling. She is fiercely independent, deeply ambitious, and committed to living life on her own terms—even when those choices isolate her from nearly everyone around her. The double standard is impossible to ignore: if Rita were a man, her career-first mindset and emotional detachment would be praised. Instead, she’s judged at every turn, with only her late mother—a doctor who lived similarly on her own terms—offering any real understanding. That absence lingers, because grief is one of the novel’s most persistent undercurrents.

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Wife Shaped Bodies by Laura Cranehill: A strange, fungal dystopia about what marriage takes

If you’re expecting a straightforward horror novel, Wife Shaped Bodies by Laura Cranehill will catch you off guard—and that disorientation feels entirely intentional. Set in a near-future enclave cut off from a ruined outside world, the novel follows Nicole, a young woman raised in isolation and taught to fear both the world beyond her window and the fungal growths that cover her own body. When she’s married off to a man she barely knows and relocated to his decaying mansion on the edge of town, her life doesn’t expand—it contracts. What unfolds from there is less a traditional plot and more a slow, unsettling unspooling of identity, control, and buried desire.

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Let’s get this out of the way: this book is weird. Not in a gimmicky, shock-value way, but in a deeply immersive, almost disorienting sense. Cranehill builds a world shaped by plague and patriarchal control, where fungi have merged with human bodies to the point that many women are more mushroom than flesh. The men, somehow spared the worst of the infection, have constructed an insular society that positions them as protectors—though what they’re really protecting is their own authority.

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Ours is a Tale of Murder by Nora Murphy: A suburban thriller that refuses to behave

Nora Murphy’s Ours is a Tale of Murder opens in a quiet neighborhood that feels instantly familiar—and immediately uneasy. Klara and Troy live behind the white picket fence she never wanted and he always did, their marriage polished on the surface and deeply wrong underneath. Across the street from where their story unfolds, Mary prepares to sell the blue house that holds too many memories of her son and her past mistakes. Nearby, Henry, recently laid off and back in his childhood bedroom, watches everyone a little too closely. From the start, Murphy invites us into a story about observation, judgment, and the lies we tell ourselves about the people we think we know.

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About halfway through the novel, I realized Murphy was doing something quietly experimental with the structure. The storyline I was most emotionally invested in came to an abrupt halt, and my first reaction was frustration—I wanted to stay with Klara longer. But instead of bailing, I kept reading, and that choice paid off. The narrative begins to weave back around on itself in unexpected ways, reframing earlier scenes and assumptions. This is very much a book that makes you want to reread it, if only to spot the details you missed the first time—the moments that might have tipped you off that the story was never going to move in a straight line.

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The Body by Bethany C. Morrow: A brutal supernatural horror about marriage, faith, and who really owns your soul

Bethany C. Morrow’s The Body is a pulse-pounding supernatural horror novel that turns marriage, faith, and family obligation into a living nightmare—and it doesn’t flinch. Centered on a woman who has spent her entire life being told she will never be good enough, this is a story about what happens when the expectations placed on women become violent, literal, and inescapable.

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Mavis Carson broke away from her family’s church years ago, but the damage is permanent. Her mother, Marie Carson, presides over the congregation with an iron grip, demanding impossible perfection and absolute obedience. Mavis has internalized those rules so completely that even as an adult, she’s riddled with anxiety and convinced she’s one mistake away from losing everything. Her one perceived victory is her marriage to Jerrod, a man everyone—including Mavis herself—believes she doesn’t deserve. When the seven-year itch sets in and a freak car accident kicks off a string of increasingly disturbing incidents, Mavis begins to realize that the congregation she escaped may never have truly let her go.

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A Serial Killer’s Guide to Marriage by Asia Mackay: Domestic bliss, but make it murderous

What happens when the thing that bonded you as a couple is the one thing you’re no longer allowed to do? A Serial Killer’s Guide to Marriage by Asia Mackay takes that question and runs with it—through marriage, parenthood, suburbia, and the quiet, suffocating boredom that sets in when two people stop working as a team. Readers who enjoyed This Girl’s a Killer will feel immediately at home here, thanks to the same blend of dark humor, moral ambiguity, and sharp observations about womanhood and rage.

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Hazel and Fox once believed they were made for each other. Not in a meet-cute, rom-com way, but in a far more specific sense: they are serial killers who take pleasure in killing objectively bad men, saving future victims while satisfying their own darker impulses. Before pregnancy and playdates, their greatest joy came from killing—and from doing it together. Their intimacy was built on absolute trust, shared secrets, and a kind of moral clarity that only made sense to the two of them (and me, to be honest).

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Domestic Violence, Essays, Memoir

Single, Never Married

I’m a dedicated Swagbucks addict, which means I participate in online surveys on practically a daily basis. As most surveys do, these usually collect your typical demographic data, such as sex, race, gross annual income, and marital status. These should be relatively easy questions to answer, but I’ve often hesitated when I came upon the marital status question. I know what the technical answer is, but I have strong feelings regarding what I feel is my “real” answer.

The marital status question typically gives the survey respondent the options of married, divorced, something regarding living with someone you’re not married to, and single/never married. Technically, I was legally married at one time, and I was then legally divorced after about ten years of said legal marriage. However, when I look back upon that marriage, I don’t feel as though I was ever actually “married.” Continue reading “Single, Never Married”

Book Reviews

Book Review: Spinster by Kate Bolick

Spinster by Kate BolickIn this fascinating memoir, Kate Bolick turns the history of women and marriage in America as I learned it completely on its head. According to Bolick, much of what has been spouted as truth by the  mainstream these past few decades  turns out to be false. Not just false, but one bald-faced lie after another.

This text so resonated with me, I could not put it down. It’s been a long time since I’ve felt this way about a book, and I have to wonder what has changed in me since my early 20s that I now find it so hard to relate to the characters in the books I read the way I used to. Why is no one writing about strong women whose lives do not revolve around “the question of when to marry and who?” Continue reading “Book Review: Spinster by Kate Bolick”

Domestic Violence, Relationships

You gotta know when to walk away… and when to run

A pregnant woman
What do you do if your man thinks you're repulsive when you're pregnant? | A pregnant woman (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Yesterday, I was listening to the Connie and Curtis morning show on my drive to school. It was Saturday, so of course the show was a replay… in other words, there was no way for me to call in and comment on the topic they were discussing. And of course, it was one of those topics I wanted so much to comment on. As usual, I decided to turn my response into a blog post instead.

Anyway, Connie and Curtis were discussing the plight of a woman whose husband had told her he didn’t want to have any more kids with her because she’s not attractive when she’s pregnant. And apparently, according to him, all of his friends thought she was repulsive as well. He sounds like a winner, right?

Let me just start by saying that my own EX-husband (emphasis on the EX) used to make similar remarks about me on a regular basis. So of course, my gut reaction was that she should leave him. This poor woman’s husband is showing his true colors. This is who he is. Either she accepts him as he is, or she doesn’t truly love him. As far as I can tell, she has two choices: love him as he is, or leave him in the past where he belongs.  Continue reading “You gotta know when to walk away… and when to run”