Essays

Gender roles didn’t make us partners—they made us dependent

We talk a lot about gender roles as though they’re about tradition or preference, but at their core they’re about dependency—about making sure none of us ever feels quite capable enough on our own.

Hanging her own curtains, she’s a quiet reminder that taking care of yourself is both an act of skill and an act of independence.

I’ve come to believe that women and men are both infantilized in different ways so that we remain dependent on one another. Women are told they’re bad with money, tools, cars, and anything remotely technical. Men are told they’re helpless in the kitchen, emotionally illiterate, and incapable of managing a household or nurturing relationships. The end result isn’t balance—it’s a system that quietly ensures everyone needs someone else to function.

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Eve by B.K. O’Connor: A feminist Paradise Lost retelling that leaves little room for mystery

What happens when the first woman refuses to stop asking why? In Eve by B.K. O’Connor, releasing February 10, 2026, the biblical mother of humanity is reimagined through a very explicit 21st-century feminist lens, one that trades subtlety for certainty as it follows Eve’s restless journey beyond Eden and across the ancient world.

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O’Connor’s novel begins close to familiar territory. The early sections largely mirror the biblical story, with one major deviation: Eve’s romantic attachment to Lucifer, who is framed not as a villain but as the first figure willing to question God’s opaque and authoritarian plan. Adam, by contrast, is portrayed as passive and incurious, content to remain in Eden forever, never wondering what lies beyond or what purpose existence might serve. Eve, meanwhile, cannot accept faith without understanding. She wants answers, not obedience.

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